Become aware of what you feel & see.
Body expression = Mind thinking
What your body expresses has to be congruent with what your mind is thinking. When it doesn’t, you appear suspicious. Humans have noses like dogs and we can sniff a fake from miles away.
To radiate confidence is NOT just taking on a big body shape – you have to BELIEVE it.
These political “leaders” are taking space with their legs – usually, a sign of confidence – but the picture doesn’t add up. The dominating leg stance doesn’t align with their upper chest and facial expression, which appear contracted. Although the front of their body is open, for example they don’t have their arms folded, you still don’t “feel” that they are open, trustworthy, and ready to lead.
Leaders aren’t afraid to step towards the audience. In these two examples, both people have their weight clearly away from the audience, a sign of fear: not wanting to go forward, to approach and interact. More signs of contraction: their chins are tucked in, their eyes are narrow, their palms turned in.
Leaders want to interact, they show you want is in their hands (palms open), and the have their eyes wide open for the possibilities.
Something fishy is going on here.
Your gut feeling is right and it usually is when it comes to understanding body language. Something fishy is going on here.
And this is my point:
We all speak body language,
it’s just a matter of becoming aware of what YOU see and feel in others,
and what OTHERS see and feel about you!
With joy from Berlin,
Dyane Neiman is the Moving Speaker: www.moving-speaker.com. She helps business professionals at all levels, who are challenged to speak in public, in English. She always encourages people to align mindset with their “bodyset”. Get in touch at firstname.lastname@example.org
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