When you can communicate your ideas in a way that people 1) listen to you, 2) believe & accept your message, 3) care about your message, 4) and ultimately take action
Well, wouldn’t it make you happy?
Imagine how your professional and personal worlds would change if you could become a better speaker and move people to action.
How do you know?
I didn’t know how to communicate successfully with words for a long time, so I used non-verbal language to share my ideas. I spent over 20 years working as a professional choreographer/director communicating with movement, music, and images on the stage. How do you communicate love, hate, fear with words? I couldn’t find words good enough to describe these universal themes I wanted to express, so I danced.
And this taught me a lot. I truly believe that words, slides, the pitch of your voice, the beauty of your gesture – all these public speaking „skills“ are all just the icing on the cake. These skills just graze the surface of what truly fuels human connection.
To be a successful speaker – you have to speak from an authentic, vulnerable source stripped of ego. Connection starts on a non-verbal, human to human level. This level of connection is rare.
Why should I care?
If you didn’t care to share the crazy to inspiring & everything-in-between ideas that are spinning in your head, you would get dizzy and your ideas would die. Ideas are born when they leave your head and are planted in the minds and hearts of others.
When somone truly listens to us, we feel validated in our human existence. Remember that joy you feel when someone truly listens to you, believes & accepts your idea, cares about your idea, and are moved to action because you successfully shared an idea?
What should I do?
Before you do public speaking, you need to invest in a lot of private thinking:
- What is the big idea you want to share?
- How do you know?
- Why should they care?
- What should do they?
These are the same four essential questions* that I answer in this interview.
Stay open to the many ways you communicate with someone. Sometimes it takes the right words, the right story, the right logic. Sometimes it’s non-verbal – like a song, a gesture, an image or simply a genuinely felt smile.
In any case, if you want to become a better communicator – get out there and get busy!
No trumpets sound when the important decisions of our life are made.
Destiny is made known silently.
*Thank you to Daniel H. Pink for the 4Q4 (four questions for) source.
Tag: Interview with Dyane Neiman, business owner of Moving Speaker